Romance in China
Posted in Chinese traditions on 01/30/2009 05:14 pm by adminYou could say that romantics in China are spoilt for choice. Not only is there the traditional western celebration of St. Valentines Day coming up this month, but the Chinese also have a day devoted to love. Qi Xi (七夕), or the seventh eve, is often referred to as Chinese Valentine’s Day, but also known as the Seven Sisters Festival, the Festival of the Double Sevens or the Magpie Festival.
The Qi Xi Festival is celebrated on the seventh day of the seventh month in the Chinese lunar calendar (August 26th this year), and while the annual gift frenzy synonymous with February the 14th does not take place, there are many stories to tell and customs associated with this day of romance that lovers can partake in.
There are many versions of the ancient tale of Qi Xi, but the most popular sees the seven daughters of the Goddess of Heaven catching the eye of a Cowherd during one of their visits to earth. The daughters were bathing in a river and the Cowherd, Niu Lang, decided to have a bit of fun by hiding their clothes. It fell upon the prettiest daughter, Zhi Nu, (who happened to be the seventh born), to ask him to return their garments.
Since the Cowherd had seen Zhi Nu naked they had to marry, and the couple soon fell in love. However, after a few years the Goddess of Heaven discovered her daughter’s absence, and furiously ordered her home. The mother took pity on the couple though, and allowed them to be reunited once a year, and legend has it that on the seventh night of the seventh moon, magpies form a bridge with their wings for Zhi Nu to cross to meet her husband. Apparently, this is also the reason why, on the day of Qi Xi, it is difficult to find any magpies in China!
On the day of the festival itself, lovers go to their local temples to pray for love and happiness. Some singles also do the same thing to make them lucky in love for the year to come. Traditionally on this day young girls demonstrate their skills in the domestic arts – especially melon carving – and make wishes for a good husband, and many also repeatedly wash their hair until it shines.
However, if the prospect of a second Valentine’s Day fills you with dread, then November in China has just the thing. For groups of young western (and increasingly large numbers of Chinese) singles, it has also become customary to organise a sort of “anti-Valentine’s” get-together on the same day, but the Chinese go one better, and have a dedicated ‘singles day’ on November the eleventh.
The idea originated from the early 1990s, when college students in Nanjing first put forward the idea of choosing the day as a festival for single people. The date was chosen because the date “11/11″ consists of four 1′s. It first became a hit on university campuses, and then spread throughout the whole country. As it is no longer such a massive taboo for an adult to be single in Chinese society, singles’ day is seen as a chance by young people to shake off parental pressure to marry and simply have a good time, and man go out to bars or karaoke, send text messages to their single friends and colleagues or sometimes organise matchmaking events…
So, however you decide to celebrate the upcoming festivals of romance this, make sure you have a good time, good luck and good tasty – zaijian! (Ah. Before I forget, photo of the week. I’m sorry I missed it, I promise it’ll be back next week…)







